Many of the friendships which have existed for decades are virtually unrecognizable to me now. Is it them or me? Some of both, I think.
My father spoke of a similar phase in his life about 20 years back. Same age as I am now. It seemed impossible to imagine at the time. But I was 20 years younger, and could not have foreseen the changes in myself and those I thought would always be around.
My former tribe has disbanded, due to age, politics, apathy, addictions, and the death of a famous lead guitar player. I'm okay with that. My one regret is placing so much value on things that were ultimately unsustainable.
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That was a tough transition when Jerry died. Some people continue to see Furthur and the Dead and all the other offshoots but I can't and won't. I didn't realize how little we had in common w/ those people except for the band till after Jerry died. I enjoyed the solitude in Washington for the first few years but then it got to be too much. I missed having friends nearby....seemed like everyone was back east and I was reunited w/ them on Facebook. Moving back was the best decision. I have plenty of alone time plus I get to see friends, family, my stepkids, etc, frequently.
"My one regret is placing so much value on things that were ultimately unsustainable."
Which is the nature of youth, honey. Plus I would argue that ours, as hippies/what- have-you was extended. Who knows how to grow old or be old, anymore. I just notice that people keep dying ... JJ Cale .. always a surprise, but it's only going to escalate.
It gets better. Just keep learning new things.
Let’s see, in the last month, you’ve called your friends racists, assholes and bigots and basically disrespected the whole of the British Empire all because their opinions differed from yours. Why not try being less militant/bitter victim in your views and try more tolerance and acceptance that people are different.
I would like to be your neighbor. I think we would have a good friendship. Dinner every now and then, a hike, a conversation about life down by the mailbox, the sharing of garden bounty, and the comforts of community.
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Social_isolation
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